By Brian Kim
Learn the key points you need to know in order to give that great
speech.
I think every one of us dreams of someday giving THAT ONE SPEECH. You
know exactly what speech I'm talking about. The one where you are standing on
stage, supremely confident in your knowledge and flawless delivery. The one
with no stutters and no awkward pauses trying to remember what to say next.
The one with nobody in the audience looking around or checking their watch or
wondering what they should eat for dinner. The one where your voice does not
shake with fear and your gestures are not awkward and forced. The one speech
where at the end of it, the audience gives a thundering applause (not the
standard applause, or the half-hearted applause, or the pity applause), but
the geniune 100% certified grade A "We most definitely loved your speech and
we want to show it" applause. That's THE speech I'm talking about.
During my time at UCLA, learning how to give a great speech like that was one
of the things I wanted to do. I talked with friends who had taken the regular
Speech 101 classes that UCLA offered, but their reviews about it weren't that
glowing to say the least. Then one day, while browsing for classes to
register, I stumbled on an obscure speech class buried deep within. I believe
it was called Oral Communication or something to that effect. What surprised
me was that it was filed under Math and Science department (maybe it was Math
or Science department, not math and science, but I digress). The point I want
to make is that it wasn't filed under the same department as the regular
Speech classes were. What's more, the class maximum size was extremely small
(I think 10 people), which meant individual one on one time with the
professor, as opposed to the huge regular speech 101 classes, where you were
akin to a grain of sand on a beach. The professor (I apologize profusely for
forgetting your name Professor as I am horrible with names and that's what I
get for calling you the generic title of Professor all the time :)) consulted
with top executives in fortune 500 companies and helped them to overcome fear
of public speaking and gave real genuine advice on how to give a great speech.
The cool thing about this class was that it offered a whole new paradigm of
public speaking (at least it did to me and to the other people in my class).
The concepts we learned in class were so good that they helped people in my
class who had strong foreign accents, (which made their English hard to
understand), give great speeches.
I admit, I was skeptical until this one guy, whose thick Asian accent made it
pretty hard to understand his English, (but by learning these key points), was
able to give a terrific speech on nanotechnology. Despite his accent, he made
an extremely complex subject very simple to understand and got his message
across very effectively. My classmates and I were blown away and it was truly
inspiring, to say the least. The following are the main key points that I
remember from that class. I don't know where I left my notes on that class,
but these key points are (in my honest opinion) all you need to know to give a
great speech.
Key Point 1:
You Have an Important Message You Want to Tell People Adopt the mentality that
you have this great message (your speech) and that only you are capable of
delivering this important message to the audience and it is your job to make
them understand your message. It is very crucial they understand your message.
Put your entire focus on making sure the audience understands your message.
Why? A lot of speech classes cover topics centered around the speaker.
Don't fidget.
Don't sway side to side.
Don't mumble.
Stand up straight.
Speak loudly, but not too loudly.
Don't tap your foot.
Don't let awkward pauses build up, etc.
What this does is put all the focus on YOU, the speaker. It makes you very
self conscious, which in turn makes you nervous, which will in turn show in
your speech.
The key here is to throw all that focus and subsequent anxiety on the
AUDIENCE. Have the thought of "I really have an important message and I want
the audience to understand it. It's very important that they do. I am the
chosen one to give this speech and I want to make sure I get my message across
and they understand." By adopting this simple shift in focus from the speaker
to the audience, you eradicate a lot of the pain that people associate with
public speaking, and that is "I hope I don't screw up and look like a complete
jackass in front of a lot of people." Your focus shifts to "I really want the
audience to understand my message and I'm going to do everything in my power
to achieve that." Really focus on that and the audience will feel that you are
sincerely trying to help them in your speech and you will find the audience
will thank you greatly for it.
Key Point 2:
Speak in a Conversational Tone We've been influenced by the media to
"broadcast" when we give a speech. To speak like Tom Brokaw or Dan Rather on
the Nightly News (I don't mean to imply that form of communication is "bad" in
a sense. It's just a style not suited for giving speeches"). Giving speeches
in a "broadcast" format is an instant turn off to audience members. Why?
Because they feel that they as an individual are not important. You are just
"broadcasting" your message to the whole. In their eyes, you don't care about
them as an individual. The majority of people tend to go into "broadcast mode"
when giving a speech and the audience members groan inside thinking "not this
type of speech again".
When giving your speech, speak as if you were talking to a friend. This will
give the impression that you are talking to each individual audience member,
on a very personal level. This will hold their interest in you and your speech
because they feel your are talking to them personally. For example, let's say
your speech is "Why Berries are the Best Antioxidant Fruits" Right before the
first words come out of your mouth when you give your speech, picture your
best friend in the front row asking YOU, "Hey (insert your name), why are
berries the best antioxidant fruits?" Answer him like you would in the tone of
a normal conversation in your speech to get that conversational tone effect.
Also, make individual eye contact with one person while speaking in that
conversational tone and then move on to the next person and make eye contact
with them and repeat this process. This will further enhance your speech.
To help you better understand the difference between Broadcasting and the
Conversational tone, let's see how the opening lines of the same speech are
like according to these two styles.
Broadcasting: "Numerous scientific studies have shown that berries contain a
high level of anti oxidants, more so than any other fruit. They attribute this
unique quality to the ......"(zzzzzzzzzzz the audience shuts down mentally as
they realize it's just another broadcast.)
Conversational: "When I heard berries were the best antioxidant fruits, two
questions came to mind. What the heck is an antioxidant, and why should I care
about the berries that have them? I bet you thought that too. Well, I did a
little reasearch and came up with some answers. It seems an antioxidant is
like a super duper cancer fighting boxer. It's sort of like ...... (audience's
ears perk up right from the start because they sense this is no ordinary (aka
broadcast) speech. This speaker is talking to them on an individual level
because of the conversational tone of the speech so they listen accordingly.
Trust me, the vast majority of people give speeches in broadcast mode (i.e.
remember your high school's valedictorian speech?), without even realizing it,
and without knowing that it kind of shuts people's minds off the instance they
detect it, (unless they are really really really really interested in what you
have to say). Kill the broadcast. Open up the conversation and invite the
audience in.
Key Point 3:
P.
R.
E.
P
No, it doesn't mean prep, although that's something you should certainly
do. P.R.E.P stands for: P oint R eason E xample P oint Most audience members
will only remember one or two key points from a speech. The sad thing is that
most people tend to ramble on and on and on and on and on in their speeches
while all the while the audience is thinking "What's the point? Get to the
freakin point! You're all over the freakin place. I don't know what you're
trying t to tell me. Arrrrggghhh. I'm just going to think about what I should
eat for dinner."
To avoid this, try to keep your point simple by saying it in one sentence.
(P) When people hear your point, their next natural thought is "why?". You
must satisfy their thought by providing a reason.
(R) Then you give a simple example to illustrate your point.
(E) Studies have shown that people will remember the examples in the speech
and use that as a link to remember the point of the speech (tortoise and the
hare - easy example that everyone remembers and the point is easily extracted
from the example). So choose a good example. Then reiterate your point for
good measure.
(P) Include at the most 3 P.R.E.Ps.
If possible, try to cut down the number of points to one or two in your
speech because the average audience member will only remember one or two
things from your speech. When preparing your speech, keep these points and
examples simple so you're audience will fully comprehend your message.
A good acronym my professor used for this is K.I.S.S (Keep it super simple).
You'll find that if you use this simple P.R.E.P formula, the audience will
easily be able to recollect the main points of your speech, which is something
very rare for audiences in general.
Key Point 4:
Let it Land. Sometimes, we may be so eager to get our message across that we
speak faster than a high school girl sitting with her friends on a lunch table
with the juiciest piece of gossip to hit the school in weeks. When you speak,
let it land. Pause after each sentence. Let it sink in. Look at the audience
to gauge whether you are speaking too fast. You know just as well as I do that
if you have to keep up your comprehension with the speaker's fast rate of
speech, you'll switch off and forget about it, as it is way too much work. Let
it land.
Key Point 5:
Know Your Material (aka Practice) Know your material. Inside out. Yes, it's
cliche. Yes you know it. Yes I don't have to tell you, but I'm still going to.
Know your material. Inside out. Know it in your sleep. Know it in the shower,
in your car, when you're working out. Be sure of it. Be rock solid. Know your
material. Know it so well that you don't even need to bring a line by line
transcription of your speech. Just a brief outline, as shown at the end of
this article. This is just the ultimate confidence booster. Know your material
and you will knock your own socks off.
Key Point 6:
Visualize. Yes you've heard about this as well. I will post an article on
visualization in the near future that will go in depth as to why it works, but
for now, know that it works. Visualize yourself giving THAT ONE speech, and
nailing it, and having the audience give you thunderous applauses and genuine
comments afterward. Envision it constantly and feel the joy, hear the
applause, see yourself in your eyes giving the speech, feeling the confidence,
laying out the simple points and examples, seeing their heads nod in
understandment and agreement, etc. You will find that your visualizations will
come true. The Whole Package
So here's the basic outline of your speech.
Intro - Like they say, use an attention grabbing intro. Use a funny anecdote,
or something you noticed in general, or whatever you can come up with. I leave
this up to your creative mind. Case in point, get their attention so you can
tell them about: Point 1: My point is...What I'm trying to say is....etc.. R E
P Point 2 P R E P
Conclusion (wrap it up and reiterate your points again) Done Apply the tips
outlined in this article and I guarantee you that your fear of public speaking
will greatly diminish and that you will be able to give THAT ONE speech you've
always dreamed of.
Author's URL: http://www.briankim.net.
Brian Kim is a man with a mission. To help people invest in themselves, their
greatest asset, in order to make their dreams comes true. To accomplish that,
he founded BrianKim.net, where he has written and posted many popular and
valuable articles on personal development. He frequently posts new articles on
personal development at
http://www.briankim.net/blog.